Why talking and listening to your son matters more than you think

How often do you sit down and talk with your son? Without doing anything else. Just sitting and talking and, more importantly, listening.

In many families, having a conversation without any distractions is rare. Life gets in the way, not to mention computers, TV screens, phones, social media – we are all busy.

Open conversations with your son are important for his growth and well-being. As boys grow, so do their feelings, identities, and the world around them. Talking with them regularly helps build a strong foundation of trust and connection. Your son will know he can come to you with his joys, fears, and curiosities.

Some conversation starters for you and your son:

1. What’s something fun or interesting you’ve been thinking about lately?
2. What’s something that really makes you smile or feel good?
3. What’s one thing you’re really good at that you’re proud of?
4. If you could build your dream house, what cool things would you put in it?
5. What’s a fun memory you have with our family?
6. Is there anything on your mind that’s been bugging you?
7. If you could invent a new holiday, what would we celebrate?
8. Is there something I do that makes you feel extra special or happy?
9. Who do you feel really comfy or safe with, and why?

Children are not just learning academically but also emotionally and socially. By having meaningful conversations, you’re teaching your son how to express himself, handle his emotions, and make good decisions. It’s an opportunity to guide him through challenges, whether they’re about friendships, school, or discovering his own passions.

Also, these talks help you understand who your son is becoming. Every child is different, and conversations allow you to see his unique strengths and interests, helping you support him better. They also prepare you for the teenage years, when open communication can be even more vital.

Remember, the goal isn’t just to talk but to listen. Be curious about his thoughts and feelings—it’s how you strengthen the bond and become a steady source of support in his life.

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