How to react when your son swears
I’m not perfect, and neither is my language. I just try not to swear in front of my boys, and of course, I never swear at them.
But my son’s first swear word off the rank was a little confronting.
We were a few months into prep and he still looked so cute in his school uniform. “How was school darling?” I asked. “OK Mum. Kyle’s brother told me the F word.” My stomach hit the floor. I wasn’t ready for this yet.
“OK,” I said. “Let’s go into the bathroom and you can tell me what he said.”
I did this because:
- I wanted to make sure it actually was the ‘right’ F word (he thought the S word was ‘stupid’).
- I wanted to make sure his 4-year-old brother didn’t hear said word, as he’d have a field day with it.
- I was buying time.
It was the ‘right’ F word.
I calmly told my son that it wasn’t a nice word and that we didn’t use it in our house.
I told him that he should never say it at school because he’d get into a lot of trouble.
I also told him that words like that can upset people and make them feel sad.
Then I held my breath and waited…
He glazed over and went to play with his Lego.
I haven’t heard him use it since, although who knows what goes on at recess…
However, my younger son goes to school next year and I want to be more prepared for the inevitable. My little one will do anything for a laugh – or a reaction of any kind. And he has the added ‘bonus’ of spending time with older kids who I’m sure will be happy to arm him with an f-bomb or two.
These 10 tips (scroll down to the bottom of the article) will help you handle your son’s swearing.
And if you find yourself dropping the odd f-bomb yourself, this video will give you some fantastically funny alternatives…
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